One thing I haven't stopped doing since I was pregnant is reading what others write about down syndrome if it is on Facebook, blogs, the news, or mom circles online. I came across something I most definitely shouldn't of read. It was a mom reaching out when she was pregnant she was at high risk for Downs and wanted to know everyone's opinion on abortion. As I continued to read one lady said "We would have 100% aborted as we have 3 healthy children and it would have been unfair to them as well as we are older and if this child is severe then it would have to live the majority of its life in a home somewhere. Really not fair to him either."
I understand everyone is different and abortion wasn't an option for my husband and I. When I read something like this it makes me think about life without Mason. I cant imagine my life without him. And as far as the "It would be unfair to their other kids" I think about Dylan and how he adores Mason. Dylan and Mason have such a bond to each other. We know Dylan will teach Mason and help him as well as Dylan will learn so much being a big brother to a precious boy with special needs.People say to Mike and I "Mason is lucky to have you two as parents" but the truth is we are the lucky ones.
I have a friend who isn't a mother yet and she would say "I could never be a mom, kids are needy and disgusting" but I have to say it is different when it is your baby. Your kids are not friends children but a piece of you. When I read stories about all the moms who did have an abortion because of down syndrome there is a sadness, tears fill my eyes. All babies are a gift from the lord and no one absolutely no one is perfect.
"The people who have the answers about kids are the ones who don't have any." This is SO true. There was this guy I met who didn't have kids and he was so quick to give advice on how to parent Dylan and raise him. Karma smacked him in the face when he became a dad himself and he was clueless. He told my husband being a dad was the hardest job and has changed his life. He also told me Dylan had turned into a polite sweet boy. But a year before that those were not his words, as Dylan was a 4 year old being a 4 year old.
As I read about people giving their opinions about what they would do if they had a child with special needs it makes me think of this guy. Bottom line is you don't know what you would do until you had to cross that bridge, I think it is important to not give advice unless you have walked in their shoes.
Fact for ya: an estimated 1.2 million children are aborted each year.
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